I'm rather quiet and thoughtful (as in "prone to think/analyze", not thoughtful as in "caring" [though Stephen insists that I am-- whatever]). Being such, I tend to notice patterns of speech and rhythms of conversations. For example, I can often predict my husband's response to any given stimulus. He is by nature silly, spontaneous, and quite literal in his speech, but knowing this even his spontaneity is predictable simply by determining the most spontaneous, literal, silliest response to any given stimulus. I say: I'm sitting on the computer. He responds: it is usually not a good idea to sit ON the computer, how about sit on a chair instead. Not the most creative example, but see what I mean?
So tonight Chris, Kim, and Stephen are chatting away, and I am sitting back and observing the flow of conversation, and it occurred to me, not for the first time, that conversations can't help but revert back to cell phones. I'm not kidding you, pretty much anytime we are in a casual conversation environment, cell phones are brought up... what they look like, how durable they are, what features they have, what model people will get next, ringtones, text messaging plans, the list goes on infinitely. Not only are cell phones brought up, but they are always out, accessible, displayed in hand, and even used during the conversation. Even when we are talking about something completely different (in tonight's instance, dirty feet and showering) the conversation is interrupted to say something about a cell phone. Seriously, sit back and observe conversations if you don't believe me.
It is interesting that cell phones are such a raving conversation piece. I mean, we don't sit around and talk about the latest tvs or MP3 players as often or as passionately as we do cell phones. Is this a manifestation of our archaic need for a security item? It is ironic, because cell phones are communication devices supposedly meant to make our lives easier and to help us keep in touch with our business contacts and loved ones... it is a means to communicate information of all types. I wonder how much of the time we use our cell phones to talk about our cell phones? For employees of the cell phone industry, who must communicate information about cell phones to do fulfill their job requirements, using cell phones to talk about cell phones is sensible and necessary, but for the rest of us? Why do we spend so much conversation time talking about the very item we are using to talk to people? Do we not have much else to talk about? (Just putting the question out there... I am not accusing people of having dull lives)
Do cell phones really make life easier? We have to remember to keep them charged and to take them with us when we venture out the front door. We have to pay for them and the time racked up with them against our ear. We have to be mindful of what time, day, and place we use our cell phone, if God forbid we do not get good reception or we have to pay even more money. And, it breaks. It is dropped in toilets, ran over by cars, stuck in places they shouldn't. Sometimes the phone isn't put together right and it doesn't work at all... and then you have to take out time and gas money to visit your local provider to find out why. I mean really, is it worth all these complication to be accessible to the world at any place and time? And... do we even want to be accessible 24/7?
I realize this rant (which I know I said I wouldn't do on this blog, but oh well) appears anti-everything my husband works for, and this is certainly not meant to undermine the cellular industry (we appreciate them, by all means!!). I just find this seemingly trivial quite perplexing, and I believe it points to an underlying cultural ideological thread that is... less than ideal. I'm sure we've all heard it said that we are at one of the loneliest times in our history, even though we have in our fingertips unprecedented boundless communication devices. If we can virtually speak to anyone, anywhere, then why are we so lonely? My hunch is, we know and have access to our means of communication, but we are ignorant/ill-equipped on how to communicate at the most fundamental level. We can talk all day about cell phones, computers, cars, who has this, and I want that, but really, these items are often filler conversation, substitutions for more substantial meaningful topics that are just too icky-gooey-messy to get into; that require too much elbow grease and vulnerability to get from heart to lips. Just a hunch.